Sunday, February 26, 2012

neil asher - what is coaching?


Neil asher

Neil Asher - what is coaching
So What is Coaching?
Imagine a relationship where the total focus is on you, on what you want in your life, and on what will help you achieve it. Imagine someone listening:
  • not only to your words, 
  • to what's behind them 
  • to the spaces between the words.  
Neil Asher - Someone in tune with :
  • the nuances of your voice
  • with your emotion
  • your energy 
  • receiving everything you communicate
  • who listens to the very best in you, even when you can't hear it in yourself. 
Neil Asher - Imagine someone who will hold you accountable and keep you moving forward toward your dreams and goals. 
Neil Asher - Imagine a relationship with someone who is:
  • totally curious about your dreams and aspirations
  • what makes you tick, 
  • what you value
  • what you are most passionate about in your life 
  • a person who will help you clarify your goals 
  • provide the tools for action and learning that lead to the results you want. 
Neil Asher - Imagine a relationship in your life with a person who is sometimes even more committed to what you want in your life than you are. 
Neil Asher - Imagine what it would be like if someone knew:
  • your values and life purpose and was holding you true to them 
  • someone who would hold the flag at the top of the hill, encouraging you to press on,
  • someone to celebrate your victories and help you learn from your setbacks. 
Neil Asher - Imagine a relationship with someone :
  • who will absolutely tell you the truth - the truth about where you are strong, 
  • who knows where you sell yourself short.
  • who knows you can handle it and knows that's what you want.
  • who sees how big you can be and constantly holds that big image for you - even when you can't hold it for yourself. 
Neil Asher - Imagine someone who listens to you without judgment and allows you to show emotion - in fact accepts you without analysing you.  Imagine you get to talk to this person every week, even when you've just made a mess of things or when you've had great success. 
Neil Asher - Imagine a relationship where you finally break free of those self-limiting conversations you’ve been having over the years - where the voices of sabotage are simply noticed for what they are and the powerful part of you is always encouraged.

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Thursday, February 23, 2012

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I'm a business owner. 

I'm not mega rich, but I earn more than my employees. 

I earn more because I created the functional system and worked 70 hour weeks for 16 years. My effort and risk now provides the opportunity of 40 jobs around the world. 

Incentive and huge risk, has expanded the economy, and everyone is granted more opportunity.
How else does job creation happen?
Open your own business, you would learn that "the rich" do not prevent you from succeeding, the government does =)

Neil ASher

Monday, February 13, 2012

Neil Asher


Start at the Beginning Neil
Neil asher start at the beginning
You are now embarking on a wonderful life journey that will change what you do in many ways and allow you to see who you really are inside. This may be scary sometimes and thrilling at others. One thing is for sure, you will know much more about yourself and will have discovered a way to live and work which is beyond your present capacity. What is necessary for you to begin this journey is that you decide to do the work that goes along with reading this book. This book is simply your guide. 
You must be accountable and responsible for making the book come alive by doing all the exercises and fully engaging in the process. As in the coaching relationship, the client must do the work to learn and grow. In our coach training program, we make it clear to new students that they need to do the practice activities, engage in the role plays, and begin to work with clients right away, so that they can begin to do live coaching. This too, is your role as the reader.
Take your time in processing the information. This is not a book to be read quickly or once over. This is a book to be digested, acted upon, re-read, and thought about. It is a fun and delightful process that will enable you to grow. You may feel some of the things don’t fit for you or are very difficult for you. That is okay. It is perfectly fine to struggle with new concepts. This is a process, and I am looking for you to feel the growing pains knowing that from this you will progress, even when it feels like you may be standing still. Imagine me, as your coach for this program, standing by your side, encouraging you and holding you accountable. You bought the book, so you are attracted to self-growth, yes? Now, I am not going to sit here, as your coach, and tell you it is okay not to finish the book or do all the exercises. 
So imagine you just paid me what a typical coaching client pays for one month of my services, £1,000 - you don’t want to waste this valuable money and not do the work, right? Okay, you are now my coaching client. Get ready, and understand you must make the commitment to do the work and the payoff will be great!
As you embark on this journey, I am by your side as your success partner. Let’s get started!

Neil asher

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Neil asher


NO ONE IS RIGHT OR WRONG – THEY JUST ARE
Often, new coaches have difficulty practicing non-judgment of people. Somehow, our society has trained us to judge others as good or bad and not to accept those who are different from us or what we consider the “norm.” So, this skill takes some work.
To better understand this principle, let’s listen in on a typical client session:
Client: I want to tell you something before we start working together.
Coach: Yes, Fred.
Client: I just thought you might want to know that I am seriously fat. I don’t know if that affects how we work together or not.
Coach: Not at all. neil asher
Client: Because I’m okay with this; it’s not something I want to change.
Coach: Okay, and I thank you for putting that out there for me. Whether you’re 60 Kilo’s, or 200 Kilo’s, or 6000 Kilo’s, you’re still Fred, and I’m excited to work with you.
Client: While we’re working together, if I really don’t want to do something, maybe I don’t want to change my job, how do you deal with that?
Coach: It’s really up to you what your goals are. As the Coach, I stand for you as a human being; as a person, I stand for your rights and who you are as an individual, and not for what the goals are that you accomplish. So it’s not about what you do or what you accomplish, it’s about becoming more you.
Let’s listen in on another client session to further understand this principle:
Coach: Tell me more about how you create income so I can better understand.
Client: I’m a professional gambler.
Coach: Okay.
Client: Now, I don’t know if that bothers you or not, and I don’t want to change that. It’s very lucrative.
Coach: Okay, whatever it is that you do is whatever it is that you do to create income. I stand for who you are. So, what is the intent of your coaching with me, Tom?
Client: I just want to be better balanced and be happier. I really don’t want to give up my gambling.
Coach: Okay. Does gambling get in the way of your happiness or your balance?
Client: Maybe, sometimes.
Coach: Would you be willing to talk about how that gets in there? I have no judgment, no opinion; it’s totally up to you what you want to do, and it will be throughout all of our coaching.
Client: Okay.
Coach: Would you allow me to ask you some questions as we do our coaching together, so that you can get honest answers and go deep within yourself to make your own decisions, and just allow me to probe a little deeper than most people have probably probed with you?
Client: I think so.
Coach: If you’re willing, our coaching will work. I do want you to know, if I ever get to a place where it feels uncomfortable, you simply say, “Don’t want to go there. Don’t want to answer that.” Okay?
Client: Okay.
Coach: Great, and again, Tom, I stand for you; anything and everything you tell me is confidential. It’s between us and I hold no judgment.
Client: Okay.
Coach: Great neil
Let’s listen in on still another session:
Coach: Hi, neil!
Client: Hi. Are you able to understand me? I have a very heavy accent and I really think that’s going to be a problem on the telephone. People have trouble understanding me. Even though I’m really smart, they treat me like I’m dumb because of my accent.
Coach: Okay. Are you asking if I have a problem understanding you?
Client: Well, yes. Do you have a problem that I’m from the Ukraine, with this heavy accent? You may not want to work with me because of this.
Coach: I’m delighted to work with you, and if there is something that I have trouble understanding or you have trouble understanding, let’s just honour each other and be sure we ask the other person, or let the other person know that we need some clarification. How’s that?
Client: Okay.
Coach: Great, I’m delighted to work with you.
You will later learn tools to take away judgment neil asher. Let’s imagine this together. What if everyone received this training and no one in the universe judged others? What would/could this world be neil asher like? You can create that world for you through your desire to let judgment go. Don’t worry, we have many tools to teach you and have only just begun to visit this topic.

Monday, January 30, 2012

neil asher


Neil Asher Introduction
Neil Asher
The idea for this book came from my work as a professional and personal coach. As I coached people of all ages, all backgrounds, and from all continents, I began to realize the powerful coaching tools I had been using were changing  people’s lives, as they learned to use these same tools for themselves. 
Later, through the New Insights the coach training company that I founded, I learned that some of our students weren’t in the training program to be personal and professional coaches, they were there to use the tools to be more effective in their personal and professional lives. I began to imagine a world where each of us learned these coaching tools, these life tools, as we developed from childhood. I know we’d all be better children, friends, teachers, parents, community members, partners, lovers, business owners, and employees … better people Neil Asher
Coaching tools are really people tools, and I think they need to be made available to the public rather than hidden in coach training programs. We all deserve to have the same skills that coaches have. I know, from personal experience, that coaches have more evolved lives and are typically happier with who they are and what they do. I know that many people who hire a coach gain this satisfaction with themselves as a benefit of the coaching experience. I began to ask myself, why not give these same coaching tools and gifts to readers who aren’t trained as coaches and who may not yet have had a journey with a coach? Why not make these powerful tools available to all to use?
This book is my dream - to share coaching with the world. My desire is that we begin to share these skills with children from an early age, and for us, well, it is never too late to learn!
Have Fun Using these Tools and Let’s Get Coaching!
Neil Asher

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Neil Asher how to sell a service


Neil Asher

How Can You Sell a Service? 

I've got nothing tangible to sell.  There's nothing tangible how can I sell that... 
This is a comment made often by professionals, and people in service industries.  Yet, it's far from the truth.  Just as a good copywriter will dissect and analyze a product, to search for its features, advantages and benefits and its USP (Unique Setting Proposition) a service can be treated in exactly the same way. It is no matter which way you look at it, a product or a service is packaged for the market or should be anyway.  So really, the treatment in advertising should not be any different.  
So where do these people go wrong?  
Take a phone call I had the other day.  A gentleman, who has recently started a coaching company on his own, rang to say he had been placing ads for his new life coaching service and the results had been disastrous.  
My first question was, "Is there a market for what you are offering?" and enthusiastically he assured me there was.  
So why was he having trouble creating a service?  
Further questioning uncovered what I feel was his answer and the answer to a lot of other ads that don't work.  His ad headline was simply, Life Coaching Service Now Available.  
Now being too close to his line of work compounded the obvious.  
My question was, if people have been presumably getting along nicely without coaches, what in the headline would possibly attract them to him and his services?  
"They aren't handling their lives as efficiently as they should, they need my services." he insisted.  
He knows that, but if they don't know that they have this problem...Why on Earth should they seek his help?  
He still found it difficult with this suggestion until I gave him this analogy: Let's say, I suggested, a producer of a new vitamin pill has come up with an amazing new ingredient to overcome lethargy.  So he runs an ad headlined, Vitex Tablets Now With Astro Scorbate or whatever. 
Great for him, but it means nothing to a sufferer (the person with the problem).  
What he should be headlining is, 
New Vitex With Astro Scorbate Brings Renewed Energy to Lethargy’s Sufferers
With a sub-head to describe what a lethargy sufferer is just to make sure (never assume people know anything!).  
Just as a sufferer may not know they lack astro scorbate, the client may not know they lack efficient management so they can get on with their life.  My caller accepted at that point that what he had to do was dig deeper to discover the underlying wants, needs, desires, fears, or members of his target market and grab them by empathizing with that. 
The examples go on.  Life insurance agents advertise life insurance advice. Yet, the consumer may not know life insurance is what he or she needs.  She may perceive his problem to be uncertainty about her finances.  She may have surplus cash, may vaguely know she needs tax minimization, or she's really searching for an agent offering perhaps an independent broker who isn't biased towards one company who truly cares and keeps in touch with latest developments, and keeps his client in touch with what these developments mean for their overall financial needs.  
Here’s how to fix it!
Write a believable, me to you style headline and advert around that and there might be a whole new cliental out there for you.  Then, there's the computer companies all selling computers.  When I went to buy my first computer I was almost totally ignorant about the things.  Yet, all the ads talked about technology jargon to which I could not relate.  
Finally, I entered a store recommended by a friend.  I opened the conversation by stating my needs and stressing that I was a total computer idiot.  Things went fine for the first few minutes then the salesperson went all misty as he wandered off on his own trip about megabytes, rams, defaults, hard drives and techno babble like that.  While this is all basic stuff to me now, it totally alienated me then
Yet, so many salespeople do that and companies do it in their ads.  Peddling products, and hence positioning themselves to compete on price instead of developing their own unique product through the superior service they can offer clients.   
Price positioning is DEATH to any business!
On the retail side, there are hardware stores selling hardware when the prospect isn't after hardware.  His wants are to please his little girl by building a doll's house.  Talk to him about the fulfillment he'll get, how his little girl will think daddy is just the greatest.  Now that he’s having a little girl or how the relaxation of making something with his hands will make him happier.  
Then provide a detailed information sheet supplied for free (of course) down at the store and he'll see himself doing it.  Talk about hammers, nails, paint etc and all he sees is mess and bother.  
Want more?
OK here’s another example
There's the home painter and decorator who advertises a price or more likely just his name whilst trying to solicit business from ads in the local papers.  The prospect may not have even given a thought to having his home painted.  Yet, talk about increased value a sense of satisfaction of coming home at the end of a hard day to a home that is a pure picture of the extended life of the quality paints used and how that means he doesn't have to worry about doing the lousy, scraping job every few years, or the gardens of selecting colors of the qualifications the painter obtained over and above the ordinary and etc., and suddenly he's sitting up taking notice and price isn't even an issue, it is outweighed by USP service. 
In the Sunday papers the other day, there were two ads by the same company.  One headline states, Abgal Pool Covers. The other, Abgal Solar Blankets. Both with little more than address and a phone number to assume that the reader will make the mental jump to workout these products offer less pool maintenance, winter parties, and a warm pool will have the neighbors all blue with envy, etc is a curse assumption.  By selling the benefits with that headline, 
Enjoy Pool Parties in Winter While the Neighbors Go Blue With Envy,
I suspect many more sales would results from this much improved USP based headline.
So services, products, business to business, whatever you are selling it doesn't really matter if there is a need in the market place.  They can be sold far more successfully simply by discovering what the prospect wants.  Then, translating the product or service into a reader benefits, and you can do it successfully in the press, magazines, direct mail and the letterbox drop by telemarketing, TV, radio, etc.